BeCause We Can
  • Blog
  • Where It All Began
  • About the Author
  • Contact

graduation - "let me Know How transient I am"

5/20/2017

1 Comment

 
Picture
It's been a whirlwind the past couple of months with all the senior year events for my son, Cole.  Time constraints have prevented me from writing. The morning of his graduation found me at a moment in time, reflecting on the passage of time. 

I love to iron, and for this special milestone I wanted to iron Cole's clothes so they would be "just right". Yes, that's my anal-retentive "slip" showing. Down came the iron and out came the spray starch to make crisp creases. A sizzle of spit to test for readiness and on I went to get this task completed. Hurry up so you can get yourself ready. But as I slid the iron back and forth and puffs of steam breathed up from the board, I looked back on all the clothes I've pressed for my son and daughter. There were the special occasion frocks for parties. Sunday-best wardrobes for church. Business attire for class presentations and science fairs. Not to mention the daily ironing of clothes for school. 

I ironed their clothes starting in preschool, and carried that on until well into mid-school. That was just "my thing". Pressing out wrinkles was a cathartic, relaxing process and an enjoyable part of my morning routine. All the little shorts and skirts. The jeans and fancy dresses worn at two and three years old. The costumes and t-shirts at eleven and twelve. The button-downs and formal wear at sixteen and seventeen. I'd put them on hangers to preserve the fresh press.

"Your clothes are ready!" I'd holler from my bedroom. 

How many times had I said that over the years? And here I was now, working my iron over graduation garments. Slow down, Susan. Take in this moment. Mark the seam and check the evenness of sleeve creases. Steam belched out as the iron rose and fell. Fold the pant legs so the pleats are identical. Next the robe. Smooth out the rumples from having been folded up in its package. Press the little capelet that would be worn on top. Hang them on the hanger. It's done.

"Your clothes are ready, Cole!" I hollered from the bedroom.
 
Where had the time gone? How quickly I had moved from toddler pants with snap crotches to now, a ceremonial robe marking a transition into adulthood. Cole came in, swooped up the garments and got them on. The whiskers on his chin seemed more noticeable as he asked me to check his tie. A young man stood in front of me. A fine young man. My fine young man. Ready to walk.

"LORD, make me to know my end And what is the extent of my days; Let me know how transient I am. - Psalm 90:12

Ironing my son's graduation clothes that morning, had been more bittersweet than I'd expected.


Picture
Picture
1 Comment
Esther Hampton link
5/1/2021 09:31:45 am

Very nice bblog you have here

Reply



Leave a Reply.

    Picture

    Susan Parlato Revels

    Archives

    March 2023
    July 2022
    June 2021
    February 2021
    January 2021
    July 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    January 2018
    November 2017
    August 2017
    July 2017
    May 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    August 2016

    Other blog posts

    Picture
    A Mind Unfettered: My Memories of Juneteenth
    Picture
    Be Less White
    Picture
    Look Up!
    Picture
    Getting Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable
    Picture
    "That Higher Good"
    Picture
    On the Defensive: School Shootings
    Picture
    Negotiating the Media Landscape: My Beef
    Picture
    "Gurl, You Got That Mustache Goin' On" And Why I Won't Be Colorblind
    Picture
    The Departure of a Soul
    Picture
    A Eulogy For My Father
    Picture
    Old Dog, New Tricks-Walking Towards Anti-Racism
    Picture
    Graduation - Lord, Let Me Know How Transient I Am
    Picture
    Her Big Chop - Thank you Black Women Everywhere.....
    Picture
    Immigration vs. Slavery
    Picture
    Old Dog
    Picture
    Happy Birthday Dr. King
    Picture
    "The Starless Midnight Of Racism"
    Picture
    Of Time And Touch
    Picture
    Eeny, Meeny, Miny, Moe
    Picture
    The Mixture Of Our Cultures, Blending Us Into One People
    Picture
    An Election Outcome: Do I Dare Hope?
    Picture
    Racist Pt. 2: The First African American I ever Encountered
    Picture
    The Balloon Fiesta
    Picture
    Black Lives Matter: A White Guy With A Sign
    Picture
    Racist Pt. 1 - How Did That Happen?
    Picture
    The Things Teenagers Say
    Picture
    Lest We Forget: A Letter To My Children Days After 9-11-01
    Picture
    Self-Revelation
    Picture
    What Did She Mean By, "Mama Do You Feel Weird?"
    Picture
    Mama, Do You Feel Weird?
    Picture
    But I'm White.......

    Categories

    All
    Children And Race
    Death
    Election 2016
    Family
    Miscellaneous
    Racism

    links to other sites

    www.abuacademy.com

    RSS Feed

Proudly powered by Weebly
  • Blog
  • Where It All Began
  • About the Author
  • Contact